Tuesday, February 28, 2012
Feeling nothing
I just saw this secret on Postsecret, and it made me so sad. It's the exact medication I am taking, and it has helped me so much! I've heard people say that you might not get the right anti-depressant on the first try. I think this person just needs to talk to their psychiatrist about finding something different. Numbness can't be worse than depression and anxiety. Depression and anxiety were causing me to be numb. Medication has dramatically changed my life for the better.
Sunday, February 26, 2012
18 miles
Yesterday I went for my longest run yet: 18 miles. There were a couple of stops and walk breaks, but my feet covered 18 miles.
It was not pretty. It was not my strongest run, but I finished. Just over 10 miles my stomach started to destroy my spirit. I wanted to just quit and walk home. Instead, I decided to leave my running partners to find a bathroom. I forgot to restart my Garmin after I paused it to discuss getting back on route with my friend. I covered about .25 of a mile without logging it on my watch.
After the bathroom stop, I had about 4 miles left to go and decided to cover that ground without walking. I only walked once, when I was close to the top of a very steep hill. Shortly after that, one of my running partners turned onto the street in front of me. I was super encouraged that I had almost caught up. I followed her back to our starting point, and my Garmin was just showing 17.75, so I decided I had to keep going until it beeped and showed 18. So my 18 miler was really more of an 18.25, but I'm not going to call it that because it sounds like I'm so much prouder of myself than I am.
I am proud of myself, though. I'm very excited about this accomplishment. My longest run before that was 16 miles, and it was a great feeling after the 16th knowing that each step I took at that moment was one more step than I had taken before. Marathon training is grueling, but it is most certainly empowering. I am so thankful for all of my friends that keep me rooted in running and fitness and constantly support me with positive attitudes and honest advice.
The marathon is at the end of April, and I know now that I can do it. When I got close to finishing I felt horrible, but I knew I could keep pushing myself if I needed to. Which I will in Nashville, because a marathon is 8.2 miles farther than what I ran yesterday.
It was not pretty. It was not my strongest run, but I finished. Just over 10 miles my stomach started to destroy my spirit. I wanted to just quit and walk home. Instead, I decided to leave my running partners to find a bathroom. I forgot to restart my Garmin after I paused it to discuss getting back on route with my friend. I covered about .25 of a mile without logging it on my watch.
After the bathroom stop, I had about 4 miles left to go and decided to cover that ground without walking. I only walked once, when I was close to the top of a very steep hill. Shortly after that, one of my running partners turned onto the street in front of me. I was super encouraged that I had almost caught up. I followed her back to our starting point, and my Garmin was just showing 17.75, so I decided I had to keep going until it beeped and showed 18. So my 18 miler was really more of an 18.25, but I'm not going to call it that because it sounds like I'm so much prouder of myself than I am.
I am proud of myself, though. I'm very excited about this accomplishment. My longest run before that was 16 miles, and it was a great feeling after the 16th knowing that each step I took at that moment was one more step than I had taken before. Marathon training is grueling, but it is most certainly empowering. I am so thankful for all of my friends that keep me rooted in running and fitness and constantly support me with positive attitudes and honest advice.
The marathon is at the end of April, and I know now that I can do it. When I got close to finishing I felt horrible, but I knew I could keep pushing myself if I needed to. Which I will in Nashville, because a marathon is 8.2 miles farther than what I ran yesterday.
Friday, February 24, 2012
The follow up
Today I met with a new psychiatrist. I guess "normal" depressed people usually see an outpatient psychiatrist, so the nice people at Behavioral Health set me up with a follow up appointment with a doctor there. My counselor hinted that he is a little difficult to talk to, so I was nervous.
I checked in at reception and they handed me some forms to fill out, as well as treatment information that was in comic sans font. Why do psych offices keep exposing me to things that trigger rage? I guess comic sans is supposed to be a happy font, even though it is never appropriate for anything professional, especially a hospital! Anyways, I waited for a few minutes then a nurse took my weight and vitals. I have already dropped 5 pounds of my "depression weight" so I was very excited about that. She then talked about how she loves ghost hunting shows, and I told her they made me nervous.
After that, I returned to reception to wait for the doctor. The Rachel Ray show was on the TV, so unfortunately I was exposed to more rage triggers. (The Rachel Ray show was later stuck on the TV at the gym, because the universe hates me today.)
The doctor called me into his office. I sat down and immediately noticed the half empty bottle of sriracha sauce sitting on his desk without any food next to it. He had picture frames filled with photos of him with a woman that appeared to be white but was painted like a geisha. To most accurately describe how he looked and acted, picture Mickey Rooney's character in "Breakfast at Tiffany's", except he was actually Asian.
He asked me a couple questions. After every reply, he said "OOOoooohhh! That's good" and looked up and grinned. It was all I could do not to giggle. The only time he didn't make that reply in response to my answers was when I mentioned I wasn't sleeping since I started taking fluoxetine. He quickly suggested I take trazadone at night to fix that. Then he said he wanted to see me again in 3 weeks, and that was that.
I am so glad to be able to find humor in awkward situations now instead of having anxiety attacks. The difference this medication has made in my life is incredible. I went to yoga three times this week. I tried CrossFit. I have ran 16 miles so far and plan to run an 18 miler in the morning. I hope this sleeping med works or that's going to be a long run.
I checked in at reception and they handed me some forms to fill out, as well as treatment information that was in comic sans font. Why do psych offices keep exposing me to things that trigger rage? I guess comic sans is supposed to be a happy font, even though it is never appropriate for anything professional, especially a hospital! Anyways, I waited for a few minutes then a nurse took my weight and vitals. I have already dropped 5 pounds of my "depression weight" so I was very excited about that. She then talked about how she loves ghost hunting shows, and I told her they made me nervous.
After that, I returned to reception to wait for the doctor. The Rachel Ray show was on the TV, so unfortunately I was exposed to more rage triggers. (The Rachel Ray show was later stuck on the TV at the gym, because the universe hates me today.)
The doctor called me into his office. I sat down and immediately noticed the half empty bottle of sriracha sauce sitting on his desk without any food next to it. He had picture frames filled with photos of him with a woman that appeared to be white but was painted like a geisha. To most accurately describe how he looked and acted, picture Mickey Rooney's character in "Breakfast at Tiffany's", except he was actually Asian.
He asked me a couple questions. After every reply, he said "OOOoooohhh! That's good" and looked up and grinned. It was all I could do not to giggle. The only time he didn't make that reply in response to my answers was when I mentioned I wasn't sleeping since I started taking fluoxetine. He quickly suggested I take trazadone at night to fix that. Then he said he wanted to see me again in 3 weeks, and that was that.
I am so glad to be able to find humor in awkward situations now instead of having anxiety attacks. The difference this medication has made in my life is incredible. I went to yoga three times this week. I tried CrossFit. I have ran 16 miles so far and plan to run an 18 miler in the morning. I hope this sleeping med works or that's going to be a long run.
Tuesday, February 21, 2012
An update, with progress
I apologize that it has been almost a week since my last post. Some explanation is needed, but I just wasn't ready until now. Shortly after I wrote this post, I drove with my husband to a fast food restaurant to drown my feelings in food. On the way there, I realized that this was no way to go on living. So I started driving to the hospital. My husband took over driving since I was crying buckets, and it was snowing quite a bit.
I didn't know what I was expecting to happen at the hospital, I just knew that I needed help. I am the type of person that if I don't do something when I decide to do it, it won't get done. So I went to the emergency room at the local hospital at 8PM on the Monday night before Valentine's Day.
They placed me in triage, probably expecting me to talk it out and go home. I insisted that I needed help. They gave me a room, took vitals, put me in a gown and towel socks (what I nicknamed the odd, fuzzy slipper socks they asked me to wear), and had me talk to a nurse then a doctor. The doctor was not a psychiatrist, so he called a crisis worker in to talk to me. By the time the crisis worker arrived, I had told my entire story 4 times. I tallied another with her.
I was in the tricky position of considering suicide just enough to need help, but not considering it enough to get much serious attention or preference. It just seemed like the rational alternative to me, but it wasn't something I considered myself being able to do and I had never made plans to do so. So the crisis worker and I had a nice chat, and we agreed that I would need to be admitted in behavioral health in order to get the help I was expecting.
Then a nurse transported me by wheelchair, escorted by a security guard, to a secluded part of the hospital. I said farewell to my husband and watched the door lock between us. They gave me a room, and a nurse brought me a peanut butter sandwich that I had to fix with a spoon (no knives allowed in behavioral health) and a diet coke. Then she brought in a cup. I was counting on that to happen, so I had been holding my desire to go to the bathroom the entire 3 hours I had been at the hospital. When I came out of the bathroom, another nurse came in to draw blood. It was all I could do not to pass out.
I probably retold my story/situation/whatever you want to call it 10 more times before I finally saw a psychiatrist. They told me in the ER that I would see him first thing in the morning, yet I didn't see him until almost 10AM. I had an awkward breakfast in the TV room. It was just like something out of the movie "It's Kind of a Funny Story".
The psychiatrist's office was disturbing. It had a hunting theme wallpaper, a faux deer mount on the wall, as well as a quilt with photographs of the psychiatrist holding a gun and dead animals. He looked like an older Zach Galifianakis. I still trusted him. He told me I had Major Depressive Disorder. He prescribed fluoxetine for me (generic prozac). Then he recommended that I participate in the group activities, even though he knew I didn't feel like it.
I started crying. I was not comfortable there. I was just depressed. I didn't need to be wearing hospital gowns to breakfast and using a plastic spoon to spread peanut butter on bread. I missed my husband. It was Valentine's Day. I was tired because I couldn't sleep in a room with a night light I can't turn off and a security camera pointed at my bed. I was afraid nurses would keep asking me to talk about my problems every five minutes. I had gotten help, and I needed to be at home.
So he discharged me. Mr. Crowe & I filled my prescription and attempted to have a semi-normal Valentine's Day. The next day was rough, but I pulled through. The day after that was amazing. I decided that if the rest of my days felt like Thursday, getting meds was the best decision of my life. Since then, I have had trouble sleeping but my spirit is much higher. I have more energy, and I have resumed working out and marathon training. I saw my counselor today. I will blog more about her later.
So right now I am trying to take one day at a time, appreciate myself and my life, and acknowledge the areas of my life that I can control and can't control. There are some things I can do to improve my future, and other things I just have to learn to accept. I'm so thrilled to be able to take this blog forward with a positive note now.
I didn't know what I was expecting to happen at the hospital, I just knew that I needed help. I am the type of person that if I don't do something when I decide to do it, it won't get done. So I went to the emergency room at the local hospital at 8PM on the Monday night before Valentine's Day.
They placed me in triage, probably expecting me to talk it out and go home. I insisted that I needed help. They gave me a room, took vitals, put me in a gown and towel socks (what I nicknamed the odd, fuzzy slipper socks they asked me to wear), and had me talk to a nurse then a doctor. The doctor was not a psychiatrist, so he called a crisis worker in to talk to me. By the time the crisis worker arrived, I had told my entire story 4 times. I tallied another with her.
I was in the tricky position of considering suicide just enough to need help, but not considering it enough to get much serious attention or preference. It just seemed like the rational alternative to me, but it wasn't something I considered myself being able to do and I had never made plans to do so. So the crisis worker and I had a nice chat, and we agreed that I would need to be admitted in behavioral health in order to get the help I was expecting.
Then a nurse transported me by wheelchair, escorted by a security guard, to a secluded part of the hospital. I said farewell to my husband and watched the door lock between us. They gave me a room, and a nurse brought me a peanut butter sandwich that I had to fix with a spoon (no knives allowed in behavioral health) and a diet coke. Then she brought in a cup. I was counting on that to happen, so I had been holding my desire to go to the bathroom the entire 3 hours I had been at the hospital. When I came out of the bathroom, another nurse came in to draw blood. It was all I could do not to pass out.
I probably retold my story/situation/whatever you want to call it 10 more times before I finally saw a psychiatrist. They told me in the ER that I would see him first thing in the morning, yet I didn't see him until almost 10AM. I had an awkward breakfast in the TV room. It was just like something out of the movie "It's Kind of a Funny Story".
The psychiatrist's office was disturbing. It had a hunting theme wallpaper, a faux deer mount on the wall, as well as a quilt with photographs of the psychiatrist holding a gun and dead animals. He looked like an older Zach Galifianakis. I still trusted him. He told me I had Major Depressive Disorder. He prescribed fluoxetine for me (generic prozac). Then he recommended that I participate in the group activities, even though he knew I didn't feel like it.
I started crying. I was not comfortable there. I was just depressed. I didn't need to be wearing hospital gowns to breakfast and using a plastic spoon to spread peanut butter on bread. I missed my husband. It was Valentine's Day. I was tired because I couldn't sleep in a room with a night light I can't turn off and a security camera pointed at my bed. I was afraid nurses would keep asking me to talk about my problems every five minutes. I had gotten help, and I needed to be at home.
So he discharged me. Mr. Crowe & I filled my prescription and attempted to have a semi-normal Valentine's Day. The next day was rough, but I pulled through. The day after that was amazing. I decided that if the rest of my days felt like Thursday, getting meds was the best decision of my life. Since then, I have had trouble sleeping but my spirit is much higher. I have more energy, and I have resumed working out and marathon training. I saw my counselor today. I will blog more about her later.
So right now I am trying to take one day at a time, appreciate myself and my life, and acknowledge the areas of my life that I can control and can't control. There are some things I can do to improve my future, and other things I just have to learn to accept. I'm so thrilled to be able to take this blog forward with a positive note now.
Wednesday, February 15, 2012
Monday, February 13, 2012
The alternative
I can't imagine that death would be much better than depression, but I'm incredibly troubled that my brain is making me think that it would be.
Sunday, February 12, 2012
Semi-normalcy
Today and yesterday I felt semi-normal. I got out my camera and returned to Etsy. I watched the most recent Twilight movie (which is something I never in a million years imagined myself doing) with some amazing friends. It mostly amounted to us ruining the movie for the one friend among us who actually cared about the movie. I'm about to go run 12 miles with that friend. It's cold outside, but sunny. I took this picture in my house and just wanted to share. The wreaths on the wall are leftovers from a charity art show I had in December at my old job to raise money for this race I am doing on Saturday.
Saturday, February 11, 2012
Down the rabbit hole
I've been on a sort of bender for the last month or so. I've been eating and drinking everything that comes my way, then feeling guilty about it, then feeling too tired or emotional to exercise. Food is, quite honestly, the only thing that distracts me from my bizarre emotions. I've accepted that until I'm medicated, it might be the only thing that helps me get by. But then I've also accepted that this is not a healthy way to live my life.
That's where the guilt comes in. Why does depression have to be so cyclical? The more I eat the more I feel like I need to eat. What a sad existence. I made "take it slow" my motto yesterday and almost had a semi-normal day. I made the mistake of going thrifting which over-exerted me, and my anxiousness drove me to food. I'll get this figured out, someday.
That's where the guilt comes in. Why does depression have to be so cyclical? The more I eat the more I feel like I need to eat. What a sad existence. I made "take it slow" my motto yesterday and almost had a semi-normal day. I made the mistake of going thrifting which over-exerted me, and my anxiousness drove me to food. I'll get this figured out, someday.
photo by ashlicrowe on instagram
Wednesday, February 8, 2012
In the middle of winter...
"Au milieu de l'hiver, j'ai découvert en moi un invincible été." -Albert Camus
("In the middle of winter, I found in me an invincible summer.")
("In the middle of winter, I found in me an invincible summer.")
Oh my brother, don't you worry about me
Today was my first counseling appointment. Mr. Crowe's work pays for an Employee Assistance Program (EAP) through the local hospital, which allows employees and their families to meet with counselors for free. I wasn't nervous about the appointment until this morning. I am not sure why I was nervous. I think it was mostly because I didn't know what to expect. I was afraid the counselor would say there was nothing wrong with me when there clearly is. I was afraid they would say I just need to pray about it. I was afraid they would say I was completely frigged up and needed to be institutionalized. I was afraid of the unknown, really.
What actually happened: We went to the hospital extension and accidentally went into the psych room. We were supposed to go the EAP room next door, which I didn't think was public because the door didn't have a window. We waited, then I met with my new counselor. I was kind of mad at first because she didn't introduce herself or give me her story, she just started firing questions at me. Then I realized she was tricking me into talking about my problems without feeling weird about it. Success! Having avoided professional help for depression for about 7 years, I've been able to get a pretty good idea about what circumstances of my life bother me and helped create the psychological issues that I have. The discussion was pretty one sided because I have no problem blabbing about myself.
I didn't start crying until the counselor said that she really wanted to help me because I am too smart of a person to be wasting my life away. She apologized for putting it that way, but I completely agreed with her. It was nice to hear someone recognize what your depression is doing to you instead of sugar coating it to make you feel better about yourself. She recommended that I see a doctor for medication, but I don't have insurance so that complicates things. I will be paying out of pocket, but I think I'm okay with that. It's overwhelming to think of how expensive it is... but it will be worth it if I can get back on track and get a better job, right? It's so silly how flawed our healthcare system is, but that is another blog, another day. I plan to meet with her again sometime next week.
Those of you who have read "Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close" by Jonathan Safran Foer understand what I mean when I say the experience gave me "heavy boots". Mr. Crowe and I went and got coffee and a cookie (that I didn't need, but also very much needed). When we got home, I just needed to lay down. That is pretty much my existence these days. I forced Max into a cuddling situation, and this was the result.
What actually happened: We went to the hospital extension and accidentally went into the psych room. We were supposed to go the EAP room next door, which I didn't think was public because the door didn't have a window. We waited, then I met with my new counselor. I was kind of mad at first because she didn't introduce herself or give me her story, she just started firing questions at me. Then I realized she was tricking me into talking about my problems without feeling weird about it. Success! Having avoided professional help for depression for about 7 years, I've been able to get a pretty good idea about what circumstances of my life bother me and helped create the psychological issues that I have. The discussion was pretty one sided because I have no problem blabbing about myself.
I didn't start crying until the counselor said that she really wanted to help me because I am too smart of a person to be wasting my life away. She apologized for putting it that way, but I completely agreed with her. It was nice to hear someone recognize what your depression is doing to you instead of sugar coating it to make you feel better about yourself. She recommended that I see a doctor for medication, but I don't have insurance so that complicates things. I will be paying out of pocket, but I think I'm okay with that. It's overwhelming to think of how expensive it is... but it will be worth it if I can get back on track and get a better job, right? It's so silly how flawed our healthcare system is, but that is another blog, another day. I plan to meet with her again sometime next week.
Those of you who have read "Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close" by Jonathan Safran Foer understand what I mean when I say the experience gave me "heavy boots". Mr. Crowe and I went and got coffee and a cookie (that I didn't need, but also very much needed). When we got home, I just needed to lay down. That is pretty much my existence these days. I forced Max into a cuddling situation, and this was the result.
I know that things will get better, it's just difficult right now.
Tuesday, February 7, 2012
Namesake
The name of this blog deserves some explanation. During my last weeks at the job I just quit, I switched the Sirius XM station to #28, the Spectrum. It was the first time I had heard the song "Little Talks" by Of Monsters and Men. I started to listen to the lyrics, and it was so relevant to my life right now that I started crying... at work. Every time this song would come on, I would cry. It's just so completely perfect.
The lyrics that strike me the most are:
"There's an old voice in my head
that's holding me back
Well tell her that I miss our little talks.
Soon it will all be over, buried with our past
We used to play outside when we were young
and full of life and full of love.
Some days I feel like I'm wrong when I am right.
Your mind is playing tricks on you my dear.
'Cause though the truth may vary
This ship will carry our bodies safe to shore"
Please give it a listen...
The lyrics that strike me the most are:
"There's an old voice in my head
that's holding me back
Well tell her that I miss our little talks.
Soon it will all be over, buried with our past
We used to play outside when we were young
and full of life and full of love.
Some days I feel like I'm wrong when I am right.
Your mind is playing tricks on you my dear.
'Cause though the truth may vary
This ship will carry our bodies safe to shore"
Please give it a listen...
Monday, February 6, 2012
These are my confessions and other things
I will be the first to admit that this blog is a design wreck right now. I haven't used blogger in about a year, and so much has changed since then! Since I am currently in a place where any small amount of frustration makes me need a nap or a cryfest, I will just get straight to getting things off of my chest, out of my brain, and into the interwebs.
About me: I believe I am a food addict. I have recently lost about 50 pounds. I am insecure. I am a runner training for a marathon. I just quit my job. I have a wonderful husband. I have struggled with depression since I was 15 and recently picked up anxiety issues. I currently do not have a counselor but am working on changing that. I think I am a pretty okay person. I get super nervous that I am a bother to all of my friends. In my brain, my life is in a million pieces right now, and I can't make sense of any of them. I want to get better and words always help me.
I want to start out by saying that this is by no means an advice blog. If you found this blog by googling "overcoming food addiction" (a google search I have tried before), do not expect to get all of the answers to your problems from me. I can say this for many reasons, but the biggest one is that I have not figured out anything myself. I am not a doctor, I have an AAS degree in Culinary Arts which probably makes me the last person who should be giving out advice on food addiction. If you are trying to figure out how to overcome depression, all I can say is that if you haven't already turned to food, then don't. Also do not be like me and be afraid to get professional help. I am 7 years into this battle and am just now getting brave enough to do so, and I'm quite angry with myself for waiting.
Expectations you can have for this blog: poorly written posts (see anecdote about having a food-related degree, which basically makes me unqualified for anything not food-related), unorganized thoughts and ramblings, occasional motivational posts, and a lot of ups and downs. This blog is essentially a dumpster for my thoughts. I have a journal, but because I am a loudmouth and like to let everybody have access to my deepest thoughts so they can feel sorry for me I decided a blog would be better.
This is me.
About me: I believe I am a food addict. I have recently lost about 50 pounds. I am insecure. I am a runner training for a marathon. I just quit my job. I have a wonderful husband. I have struggled with depression since I was 15 and recently picked up anxiety issues. I currently do not have a counselor but am working on changing that. I think I am a pretty okay person. I get super nervous that I am a bother to all of my friends. In my brain, my life is in a million pieces right now, and I can't make sense of any of them. I want to get better and words always help me.
I want to start out by saying that this is by no means an advice blog. If you found this blog by googling "overcoming food addiction" (a google search I have tried before), do not expect to get all of the answers to your problems from me. I can say this for many reasons, but the biggest one is that I have not figured out anything myself. I am not a doctor, I have an AAS degree in Culinary Arts which probably makes me the last person who should be giving out advice on food addiction. If you are trying to figure out how to overcome depression, all I can say is that if you haven't already turned to food, then don't. Also do not be like me and be afraid to get professional help. I am 7 years into this battle and am just now getting brave enough to do so, and I'm quite angry with myself for waiting.
Expectations you can have for this blog: poorly written posts (see anecdote about having a food-related degree, which basically makes me unqualified for anything not food-related), unorganized thoughts and ramblings, occasional motivational posts, and a lot of ups and downs. This blog is essentially a dumpster for my thoughts. I have a journal, but because I am a loudmouth and like to let everybody have access to my deepest thoughts so they can feel sorry for me I decided a blog would be better.
This is me.
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